The I-Love-You Conundrum



I LOVE YOU! Often considered to be the three most beautiful words to be ever heard, they are actually misunderstood.
Simply putting it, loving someone doesnt mean that you get married to the person, have kids and spend rest of your life with them. I love chocolates but all the fore said things are not possible with chocolates. Now, you would argue that a chocolate is not a living entity. So, I love dogs, especially puppies. Who can not love those tiny bundles of soft fur, button eyes gleaming with innocence and cute faces. Again, you can argue that I am a human. So, let us get more specific. I love my mother, my father, my siblings, my grandmother, my grandfather, my uncles, my aunts, my friends and the list goes on. I love them and I want them (or specific ones whom I can tolerate) to be around me all the time. I want them to be a part of my laughs and share my sorrows. I want them to see my grow old and stupid and still love me back.

You see, love IS NOT just being around a person all the time. That's almost a punishment, like being in bars all the time (JAIL). Love IS to willingly spend time with someone you can be yourself with and enjoy every moment, be it joy or sorrow. Love is to accept a person as they are. Love is to be yourself and let them be themselves.
Recently, this term has been distorted and modified. It is now almost a synonym to infatuation, affection, obsession or even lust. Consider this, the English are good learned people. I am sure that they didnt create these multiple words just to make their dictionaries thicker or to write the thesaurus or just to mock others. Yes, there are words with very slight difference but the difference is significant enough to distinguish them into two different words.

Now, having said all the above, I am no expert in this subject. Everything I write is what I believe and none of you are obligated to follow this. I just want to say that being a girl, I can fall in love with a guy. I can adore him for the person he is. I can enjoy his talks that the others dont understand. I can care for him like family. I can fight with all the rights over his life. I can want to spend the rest of my life knowing him. I can plan of activities for the two of us for like forty years from today. And yet, this person need not be a lover or a husband. He is can be my father, brother, friend or best friend - depending on how much they are comfortable to share back. If you dont agree, read the above lines again with a different perspective. Since I started with 'I can fall in love with a guy', automatically, the brain gets triggered to picture a couple.

Coming to the title - firstly it is inspired by The Big Bang Theory episode titles. Secondly, you might wonder that the conundrum here is that if I say 'I Love You', which sort of 'I Love You' it is. Do I love him like a brother, a father, a friend or a lover? Actually, wrong! This is very simple. Love is a feeling and if I say 'I Love You', it doesnt make any difference unless it is reciprocated. If I say I-Love-You to my dad and he replies back to his daughter, I love him like a dad. This concept is just like bro-zoned. Let a girl call you a brother but unless you too want to consider her your sister, doesnt really end your chances of hitting on her.
The Conundrum I speak of is the confusion we have with our feelings. Its a simple word and let us stop confusing it with the other ones.
Well, maybe the feeling I spoke of, has a different name altogether and I am the one unenlightened. Well, if you know, do share.

An Ideal Husband

Yesterday, I was watching 'Khichdi' television series. It is an Indian Comedy Series and trust me, it is

definitely at par with the world popular sitcoms like The Big Bang Theory, is not more. The only thing is that as Hindi aint spoken world-wide, therefore, it still is not famous.

Anyways, so you need to know a very little about the show right now. It is about a Gujarati family which is unique in their own way. They have very different mannerisms from the rest of the world and are very happy in the way they are. They are totally insane and will drive you crazy. However, you can not help loving them. All of the characters are just too sweet and innocent. They can do stupid things but never hurt a single person, not even by mistake.

So... yesterday, when I was seeing the show, I just told my mother that when she would find a guy for me, she should find someone like Prafful. Prafful and Hansa are the total show stealer. They are a total brainless couple and in all the sense, complete each other. They love each other, with all their flaws and most importantly, they love each other for their flaws. They can not live without each other. So only I told my mum to find me a guy like him.

You know, their love story may not involve a lot of romance or going to exotic locations but that is nor love. Their love story includes going to jail together as they can't live without one another. Their love is about Prafful buying gajras for Hansa because she loves them, DAILY. Their love is about the two of them playing antakshari and

singing medleys of Bollywood songs, dedicating to each other. Their love story is about Prafful defending Hansa even before she speaks for herself. Their love story is about Hansa telling that her biggest achievement is marrying Praful. Their love story is about not doing anything but just staying there together.
You know, you should just see the way they look at each other. The way they would give gestures even when the other person is speaking. They would look at each other before laughing or any other emotion. And even after so many years of their marriage, they have that pure tender love. They even think the same. For the same situation, both of them would think the same stupid thing. And they would understand each other even without a word.

I mean, of course I would want to do job and not sit idle all day... but if you ask me what kind of love story I want - I want to marry a guy I adore and that he too would adore me. He should love me not with my flaws but for my flaws. He should laugh at my stupid jokes and complete my songs. He should buy me novels to read and yet read me a story before bed. I don't want him to be the prince but I want him to pamper me as a princess - his princess.

Khichdi, has a total crazy family but

they all love each other so much. Their love for one another is just unconditional. They know the world hates them or is afraid of them but they don't care. Instead, they are so engrossed in each other that they hardly have anytime to think of what the world has to say.

To me, Praful is definitely the ideal husband. He sees Hansa to be the most pretty lady on the planet. He accepts her for who she is and loves her that way. He never forces her for anything and never is irritated by her. Hansa is very much dependent on Praful to know everything. She is naive and innocent and more importantly, has a huge problem with understanding English. She would ask him a thousand times about the different words in English and everytime he would smile and explain it to her. He would play with her. He would go with her everywhere. He would sing her songs and buy her gifts. And the most adorable thing that I found in him, he is too proud to call her his! 'Meri Hansa' !!

Inshallah, someday I will find my Praful ;)

I couldn't have imagined, how good my life would get, from the moment I met you.... ;)

This is a wonderful video from the show 'The Big Bang Theory' where, Howard (who is always shown to be someone as far away from commitment as can be) writes this song for his wife on their date anniversary.
This is the sweetest thing I have ever seen and it is very adorable.

Today, there is a friend who doubted whether if he is a good enough person and to him, I dedicate this. I couldn't have imagined how good my life would get... from the moment that I met you ;)

If I didn’t have you, life would be blue I’d be Doctor Who without the TARDIS A candle without a wick, a Watson without a Crick I’d be one of my outfits without a dick-ey

I’d be cheese without the mac, Steve Jobs without the Wozniak I’d be solving exponential equations that use bases not found on your calculator, making it much harder to crack

I’d be an atom without a bomb, a dot without the com And I’d probably still live with my mom (All, echo: And he’d probably still live with his mom)

Ever since I met you, you’ve turned my world around You’ve supported all my dreams and all my hopes You’re like Uranium-235 and I’m Uranium-238, Almost inseparable isotopes

I couldn’t have imagined how good my life would get From the moment that I met you, Bernadette

If I didn’t have you, life would be dreary I’d be string theory without any string I’d be binary code without a one, A cathode ray tube without an electron gun I’d be ‘Firefly’, ‘Buffy,’ and ‘Avengers’ without Joss Whedon I’d speak a lot more Klingon,
[Speaks Klingon] All: And he’d definitely still live with his mom

Ever since I met you, you’ve turned my world around You’re my best friend and my lover We’re like changing electric and magnetic fields; you can’t have one, without the other

I couldn’t have imagined how good my life would get From the moment that I met you, Bernadette

All: Oh, we couldn’t have imagined, how good our lives would get From the moment that we met you, Bernadette

Legen - I-dont-have-to-wait-anymore-for-it-for-I-already-got-it - dary! Legendary! True Story (y)

From the name, I am pretty sure that you know that this post is about 'HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER'; It's official now - I am never getting over that show! It is damn awesome. Yes, I am upset with certain things but this is also something I learned from the show - sometimes the choice is between your Ego and the love you have for someone/ something. I can be pissed off for all the years to come or I can just choose to be happy that it happened. And no matter how much it hurts, I am always gonna be glad that I was a part of it and it is a part of my life forever.

There are so many things I love about the show that there was no way I could have stayed mad at it forever. And yes, I am disappointed, I wanted to see more. I wanted to know Tracy. I wanted to see Ted treat her the way he treated the others... Like, he mentions this girl 'Blah-Blah'... Future Ted doesnt even remember her name but he

takes all the time to tell the story to his kids with all details... Then atleast, the Mother deserved one whole season!
I know the entire series is kinda after her.... but I wanted to see more Tracy.

Anyways... I am not complaining. Not right now atleast.

Well... I loved the lines Ted quotes about the exact moment of when he meets his wife and what he feels about her. I have already cut out that clip and it is in a short movie I made for the couple... it is also my ringtone/ my alarm tone! I am obsessed with it. I had written down all but couldnt find it right now and I so wanted to read those words. And just as

I was about to Google them, I thought I would rather watch my video over and over again and keep writing this blog till I have all the words.

And this is what I am doing right now! Here they are -

It was at times a long and difficult road

But I am glad it was long and difficult

Because, if I hadn't gone through hell to get there

the lesson might not have been just as clear.

Right from the moment I met your mom

I knew, I have to love this women as much as I can

for as long as I can

and I can never stop loving her

not even for a second.

I carried that lesson with me through every stupid fight we every had

every 5 am Christmas morning

every sleepy sunday afternoon,

through speed bump

every pang of jealousy or boredom or uncertainty that came our way

I carried that lesson with me

and I carried it with me when she got sick.

Even then in what can only be called the worst of times

all I could do was thank God.

thank every God, there is or ever was or will be

in the whole Universe

and anyone I could possibly thank

that I saw that beautiful girl on that train platform

and that I had the guts

to stand up, walk over to her

tap her on the shoulder

open my mouth and SPEAK!

As I saw that video and heard the lyrics... I realized that this is totally how I would define 'Love'. All

Ted has in his heart for Tracy is pure genuine love. He loves her so much that it doesnt even matter

that she is dead and he continues to love her. He loves her by remembering every little bit of details and telling it to his kids... Even in the early seasons, before Stella, before even getting that Umbrella, often whatever he thought of how the Mother should be, he has remembered that and shared it with his friends. I love that thing.

I hope.... someday I will learn to love this way!!

HIMYM all over again!

I just watched the series-finale of HIMYM and I cried!

After all these moments, if there is one thing I know for sure - I started watching it as a series but now, I am totally in love with the characters. They are simply - beautiful! And if there is something that will never change, it is that no matter how much time passes by, I am always going to remember this wonderful show and I am always going to keep telling people that 'it is only Tracy for Ted' and I am going to cry every time I see episode s09e23 or s09e24…

And I would want my kids to see it too! I would want to have a son like Ted or a daughter like Tracy (keeping aside the numerous relationships of Ted and the untimely death of Tracy). I wouldn’t just let my kids see it, but I would have them see it on weekly basis, like I did - waiting for it! Not that I want them to not have it but I would want them to perceive the series like I did and enjoy every bit of it. Waiting for an entire week to see a 20-minute episode was definitely Legen-Wait-for-it-dary !!

About HIMYM… I was earlier today in conversation with my cousin who simply HATES the show. She just doesn’t find it real enough or not preaching the right  things enough. Well, while talking to her, I realized that I liked the show but it is because of the ending that I am now obsessed about it. Like she (my cousin) made a point, I would never spend hours at a stretch in a bar and it is also very unlikely that a bunch of people leave everything behind and meet at a bar regularly… but HIMYM has taught me that friends are there for you in everything stupid that you want to do. McLarens was not just another bar where Ted would drink and whine after his breakups or Barney

would pick up a chick… but it is somewhere Ted got to be Ted and no one judged him for being like that. It was a place where he was accepted for who he was. Even when Stella left him at the altar, the bar or Carl the bartender was nice enough not to be rude. So, more precisely, McLarens was their friend.

But if it is just about Barney - there are just a few lines I would want to recall - "I love you. Whatever I have and whatever I am, is yours forever".

And about Tracy - I am never gonna be over her. I just love her way too much! There are certain characters like Anand and Kal Ho Na Ho, which have their protagonists be wonderful characters who are going to be remembered and loved by all. Now, I don’t profess that a character needs to die to be great. Instead, I really don’t understand why all the good people die so much? Anyways… Like Anand - the eponym character and Aman of Kal Ho Na Ho, Tracy is portrayed to be one very strong and affable character. I mean, how can you not fall in love with her? She was witty, fun-loving, beautiful and at the

same time, she was a part of the group and also gave the group all the privacy they needed. She was in love with Ted but that never made her stop Ted from having late nights with his friends. Her love wasn’t conditional and this was the very reason that she loved Robin to be a part of the group as anyone else. She did something very noble - she brought Ted hope.

I remember, in the series finale of season 8, when he mentions to Lily that he is leaving, it was heart-breaking… almost as bad as seeing the show end. But yes, Lily was correct - with Tracy, it was different. Only she could have stopped Ted and not just stop,

we all know how much Ted loved the city - she revived all that love all over again!

Even today, the last twenty minutes of the show… especially those few last lines by Ted are sufficient to bring tears to my eyes. He can soften my heart in a matter of seconds. No matter whatever I feel, those twenty minutes are so beautiful. And there is nothing in this world that can change how those twenty minutes make me feel. And even today, yes I have my complaints but whenever I look at the last episode, all I can do is thank God. Thank every God is there is, was or will be and any one I can possible thank that there was something so beautiful and that I was fortunate enough to be a part of the legacy!

Miracle of the Day : 30th April 2014

I learned something very special today.

For quite a few days, I admit, I am being really bad. I have a very nice friend who got committed to again, a very dear person of mine. Somewhere, I was feeling a hole inside of me - kind of a hole that needed a person to fill. I was feeling envious of the happiness the two of them share. It isn't that I am upset of something but I was just wanting someone dear one too.

Anyways, though I was happy, the void existed.

Today, I met someone - Gaurav sir (name disguised so you won't identify it unless you are the person himself)… It is not that I met him for the first time but I did meet him after a LONG time. In this long time, there had been several things that I had been meaning to tell him… there were moments of anger… of frustration… of a little worry and most importantly… a lot of laughter and smiles from the memories of time before that.

I keep thinking to myself that it has just been 4 months since I have met Gaurav sir but in this little time, he has become someone really important to me - he affects my priorities and today itself, I found out - he affects my hunger… For he was here, I didn't take lunch and I didn't feel hungry at all!

I look back over these 4 months and I gather that there is if not much, but a significant age difference and yet, we have talked a lot. In all the talks that we have, I don't speak much… and mind you, I am a very talkative girl. I like to listen to him. Every minute that I sit beside him, I feel I have gained something that I didn't have before. Even when he is silent, I learn how to be such passionate about one's work.

I have learnt to have fun, to see life from a different perspective, faith, joy, passion for work and don’t know what else from that one person.

I would just say that he is one person I wouldn't ever want to lose contact with. And having said that, just to show some concern, I am also penning down a story inspired from him.

Today… like I mentioned, I met sir after a long time. It was definitely some great moments. But what was even special was a single moment when he said something - don't get your horses running ;)

I was just speaking on and on and mostly nonsense because I had to say sorry to him for something and I didn't know how to start the topic. Anyways, in nervousness, I kept speaking on and on. I kept complaining about some things but to be honest, those things never bother me, not anymore at least.

And then suddenly, sir said that it seemed to him that I was really angry.

Okay, I gather that this is nothing but to me, it is a lot.

There is someone I keep my ears on - yes ears! I am always there to listen to him speak and here, he listens to me and actually gives it a thought. I really felt amazing with that thought.

The amazing thing was - I felt really happy. For the rest of the evening, I have been laughing and dancing to myself. I really don't need anyone else. I am also feeling loved. Yes I know Gaurav sir is far from being someone special in that sense to me and he isn't. Very honestly, that void is there and it is only time that will fill it when the correct person comes. But from this incident, I realized that I need to love myself to feel loved and it doesn't matter how someone else sees me or for that matter, if someone else wouldn't see me at all.

You see, Love isn't only of the kind of having a boyfriend (or a girlfriend). Love is an expression of happiness… if you happy, you are in love - simple! And today, I have realized something really important - I am in love <3 p="">

Because I love you........ Lyrics!

To Write Your Name Down
On Piece Of Paper
Then Strike It Off Better
And I Am In Need It
But You Remember This Once
And Once Forever That I Will Be There
When You Need Me
Because I Love You
I Love You Till The End
Because I Love You
I Love You Till The End
Because I Love You

Because I Love Love Love..
Because I Love Love Love..
Because I Love Love Love..

Don’t Write Me Oh So Soon
Cuz I Will Show Improve To You
That I Can Be Someone/Timelong Special
In Your Heart
I Know This Love Is For You
And I Will Spend My Life With You
Because I Love You
I Love You Till The End
Because I Love You
I Love You Till The End
Because I Love You

Because I Love Love Love..
Because I Love Love Love..
Because I Love Love Love..

To Write Your Name Down
On Piece Of Paper
Then Strike It Off Better
And I Am In Need It
But You Remember This Once
And Once Forever That I Will Be There
When You Need Me
Because I Love You
I Love You Till The End
Because I Love You
I Love You Till The End
Because I Love You

Because I Love Love Love..
Because I Love Love Love..Because I Love Love Love..

You know its not always that we get awesome 'English' songs out of a hindi movie!
You can consider this a mini review for both the movie as well as the song, but it is just something that I wanted to share. I mean I never expected such a beautiful track from a hindi movie and that too one like 'Jai Ho' that is meant to be a thought cum action movie...
The love story in the movie is not very catchy or something that will be remembered or quoted, but certainly the songs will be!

This sweet melody is the opening of the movie and the same hindi melody is the confession song! If you havent caught both versions yet, now is the time!!

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai... Kahin doooor...

I am definitely sure that everyone has heard this melodious track from the SRK starrer superhit movie - Chennai Express. To be honest, as I am writing this review, I am myself downloading the movie and one of the major reasons for why I want to see this movie is just because of this particular song.

No offense, most of the songs in the movie are a pleasure to listen to but there is always some song that stands out the rest. Titli is one of those songs.

Probably I like songs which are very feminine or maybe are depicting the inner most desires and joys of the female protagonists… like Titli itself, Manmarziyaan from Lootera, Eli Re Eli from Yaadein, Aadha Ishq from Band Baaja Baraat, and lots more.. But then again, these songs can be heard at anytime. You can hear them when you are happy, or when you are sad, when you feel romantic, when you are having a little heart-ache… and the beauty of these songs is that they never fail to make you better no matter how high you are already feeling.

Tamil Poetry

Kondal vannanaik kovalanay venney

Unda vayan en, Ullam kavarndhanai (x2)

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Kanda kangal marronrinaik kanave

Translation:

I have seen the One whose color is like dark rainclouds

He is the one with the mouth that swallowed the butter of cowherds,

He is the Lord of the devas, He is Lord Ranganatha,

He is my nectar, my life!

My eyes have seen my Lord and will not see anything else!

This concept of adding lyrics from another language, has proven really nice. Not knowing the other language but at times the feelings in the voices are enough to communicate with the other person. And I believe that this is the beauty of the songs with bits from other languages. Like, some english piece adds a flavor of rap or rock to the song… Similarly, these days, the south Indian (including Bengali) touch to the song has added an additional bit of romance to the song.

Also, there is no language for love… Love in itself is free from such constraints. It is something that is felt… and if you really love someone it doesn’t really matter if you don’t know each other's language. If feelings are true, you don’t have to speak a single word to explain anything. Things from the heart can be directly heard by another heart.

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor...

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor...

Chal ke khushboo se juda juda juda hai

Kahin doooor...

Haadse ye kaise

Unsune se jaise choome adheron ko

Koi Nooor...

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor…

Titli is a song about a girl's feelings as and when she falls in love. There are irregularities that she experiences with her ownself. There is a new person in her that she faces and there is a wildness to herself. She laughs and cries for no good reason… she ventures into the unknown without even thinking about the consequences… She just feels pleased with her ownself… for no good reason and there is a certain goodness in the world, in everything that is around her… a goodness that she notices for the first time, a goodness that pleases her and the more pleased she feels, the more good things around her gets… and suddenly the girl is amidst this endless cycle making her feeling high and higher.

Sirf keh jaaun ya

Aaasmaan pe likh doo

Teri taarifon mein

Chashme Baddoor…

Because this song started off as a girl oriented song, so it is quite obvious that these lines by the guy are a fragment of her imagination.. And so is the case in the movie as well. However, we shall not really be bothered by the movie, that let be another story for another blog entry… as of now… When you start liking someone, there is no bigger reward than being liked back by the person you so dearly adore.

You tend to do anything for that person and you just wish that he also reciprocates the same feelings.

Trust me, when a girl first experiences love, there is nothing greater than being loved! Its like there is nothing more to the world than the guy of her dreams. Ofcourse, it differs from girl to girl, but in the end, all girls love being cared for. So if you care for a girl truly, make sure you tell her as often as you can.

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor...

Chal ke khushboo se juda juda juda hai

Kahin doooor...

Tamil:

Kondal vannanaik kovalanay venney

Unda vayan en

Ullam kavarndhanai

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Kanda kangal marronrinaik kanave

There can be promises made just to keep her smiling… ofcourse, we all know there are certain things a man (as in a human) cant really guarantee - the future. But telling a girl that you see her whenever you think of your future, is the best way to tell her that you love her.

Most girls might not be looking for a serious relationship at first but as time progresses, they get so much involved into the relationship, that after a point of time, no gift or no form of love, greater than commitment will be the best asset for her.

There is a famous saying sort-of, a girl is very much serious when she gets into commitment but eventually loosens up, however a guy is very casual at first but if he gets serious about the girl, there can be no greater commitment than what he would display.

Most or all of us would have heard us, just we all comprehend it in our own words.

What I feel is that, initially girls put all the restrictions and conditions, but a guy who sails out all of those, is definitely the one with whom she could spend the rest of her life. All the initial restrictions were just a measure to make sure he's the one. Once she has her trust, she knows that he wont leave her for anything in the world… therefore, after she trusts him, it doesn’t matter even if he's flirting. Take it from me guys, this is the time when the girl knows you for your true self.. For your heart.. She would ofcourse not like if you flirt but she would know you belong with her forever.

Whereas guys never get serious at first… after spending a lot of time with someone when they can say that yes this is one person they cant live without, that's love!

Bhoori bhoori aankhein teri

Kankhiyon se tez teer kitne chhode

Dhaani dhaani baatein teri

Udte-phirte panchhiyon ke rukh bhi mode

That's just a thing of saying - love at first sight. I don’t really believe there is any such thing. You can definitely like a person or admire them but never love them. Loving a person includes loving them for their faults as well.

When a guy spends enough time with a girl, he comes to know of all her habits… all her small requirements… all her needs and wishes… and if just grows in love with each and everyone of them, that is when there is love!

Then there is no one beautiful than his girl… and he would give the world away for his princess…

Adhoori thi zara si

Main poori ho rahi hoon

Teri saadagi mein hoke choor

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai, kahin door

Chal ke khushboo se juda juda juda hai

Kahin door…

This is the love that completes a girl… all her life she had never realized that she was missing something,
but only after the guy truly loves her, she realizes how incomplete she had been.

And God forbid, but for any reason the two separate, it leaves a void in the girl's heart…

Anyways, this song is about love, so we better not discuss any tears.

Raatein gin ke

Neendein bun ke

Cheez kya hai khwaabdaari hum ne jaani

Tere sur ka saaz ban ke

Hoti kya hai raagdaari hum ne jaani

For a girl, love is when she completely trusts the guy with all her soul… she is ready for any level of commitment with the guy and already starts weaving dreams.

Well actually, I cant think of a single girl who wouldn’t have had some dreams and aspirations to what her dream guy would be like. All girls have thought about her guy and their grand wedding before even meeting the guy. Its just that after she meets her guy, a face starts to appear and colors begin to fill up her dreams.

All the things that were dreams for all these years, start to take shape of reality!

Jo dil ko bhaa rahi hai

Woh teri shayari

Ya koi shayarana hai fitoor..

Even the small things about the guy that werent part of your initial planning, now seem to fit in perfectly.
It was like this quality is definitely a thing you wanted but you hadnt thought of it till you met the guy and then you think how hard it would be to live without it, to live without him...

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor...

Chal ke khushboo se juda juda juda hai

Kahin doooor...

Haadse ye kaise, unsune se jaise

Choome adheron ko, koi Noor..

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai, kahin door..

I know that the elder generation don’t really see this love and romance thing as anything good… but times change. Love can never have any ugly or bad form. It will always be the most sacred thing known to mankind.

Today's relationships allow a girl and a guy to select a life partner whom they really like. Its always better to know someone and then marry them than vice-versa. I don’t say that arranged marriages are bad, its just that when you are in love with a person, you already tend to know all about them and adjust accordingly. You don’t need to worry about going into an unknown environment.

Sirf keh jaaun ya

Aaasmaan pe likh doo

Teri taarifon mein

Chashme Baddoor...

Tamil:

Kondal vannanaik kovalanay venney

Unda vayan en, Ullam kavarndhanai (x2)

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Kanda kangal marronrinaik kanave

I havent deciphered the song or done anything in context to the movie… I just wrote what I really felt whenever I heard the song… and how most of the girls would feel. It so happens that the movie has the song in exactly the same manner, but that is, I believe, a streak of good luck.

Anyways, if you have read this, I hope next time you meet your life partner, you will be able to comprehend her a little better… or you meet someone special, you will know how she might be feeling.

RIP Sweety, Jiah Khan, may you find your Safe-Haven

I switched on my computer on the morning of the 5th of July and was shocked when the welcome Yahoo homepage displayed "Jiah Khan suicide" and links to the videos and the photographs for the poor girl, now departed.

I never was a fan but yes the girl was good enough to have gained a name for herself in such short time. Unlike some defamed actresses, who earn their way into the industry having to expose beyond a limit, but they continue to do so. Jiah here, was yes, much more bold and had the sensual appeal that could be matched by very few, yet she had proven herself with her role in Ghajini, where she played a regular medical college student who helps the protagonists in several ways.

Indeed, in the last scene of Ghajini, she is acting as the source that unites Sanjay to his older self. When she gave him the present and the way she smiles to him, that was really good; for before when she sold his information to Ghajini, I so wanted to … aaargh!! Never say anything bad, for anyone; especially to the decreased.

Well, I immediately googled and read the entire story. It was definitely sad. I mean yes, she wasn’t the ultimate superstar or she wasn’t the prettiest lady to walk the planet, but she definitely had the potential and no one can deny that she was pretty! See how cute she can look!!

And it does take a lot of time to get a name for yourself. She was just beginning her career. Like, say, I try real hard to write and to write good, so as to become a better blogger. But as of now, all I think I have achieved is that I am addicted to blogging. When not blogging, I find myself reading about how to blog better or what is the content that should be blogged about - as a result, you see my posts are different than what they used to be earlier. Similarly, had she stayed on, not giving up and putting up a fight, I am sure in due time, she would definitely have attained the fame she truly deserved and common, I am not saying this now for she's dead. I have seen her in Ghajini and in Housefull and she did a good job of whatever was given to her. Now it aint her fault that she is given a side role!

Anyways, then there with the discovery of her suicide note, that was really shocking. For one, I, who barely knew anything about her, leave knowing her personally, felt at a complete loss for words after reading that letter! But yes, if there is one thing that I can say - that is - SHE WAS STUPID!

Sorry, if anyone close to her is reading, but who the hell gives their life for a guy?

I mean right in the first place she should have kept her distance when she knew that he was cheating on her. And then well, Suraj Pancholi?? Yeah, right! I heard his name after he was accussed for driving Jiah to suicide! But I knew Jiah! She was way more famous than he will ever be - and even after being helped by Salman Khan. No offense Salman, I know you are helping but oh common! Just look at him, he got no face. Now, I will just have to be stupid enough like Jiah to like him and if I am stupid enough, I will rather do suicide than like him! AND I DON’T BELIEVE IT - She had a secret baby?? With him? And an abortion too?? WERE YOU TOTALLY OUT OF YOUR MIND GIRL??

I don’t have anything against babies, I really like them but common, you don’t have babies when you arent even settled yet. Its not that if you had a baby you wouldn’t be able to raise it well but why have one when you in yourself are not satisfied with what level you have accomplished? Atleast a person should be in peace with himself before he or she can nurture another life.

And then okay, your letter tells that you werent ready and all the love crap, but then getting the baby aborted? You had to be possessed by an alien to make you do so crazy!! Who gets a baby killed?? Especially their own!! Right, I know India aint that perfect picture like I made it sound. There are several abortions everyday. People kill girls immediately after they are born and everything. But you were supposed to be from the educated and sensible part of the flock. Seriously, the last thing I would want in India is that people like film-stars, crickets and other celebrities who are the role models for 1000z of others to do something like that.

And the biggest thing that you did - if he was cheating on you - GO GET A LIFE!! If he tried to torment you or torture you physically - GO TO THE POLICE!! None of them involve hanging yourself off the ceiling. Did you even think what your mother and your sister might feel. How your friends are going to remember you as? How will anyone to whom you mattered, move on?? THIS WAS ONE VERY SELFISH STUPID THING TO DO!

Its really easy to die, try living with the pain! That  is the real thing that kills!

And common, if the guy didn’t value you when you were alive, would he ever value you after you are dead?

You could have easily gotten several better guys!

Trust me sweetheart, if I could, I would bring you back to life. For you arenot, rather no one is destined to such an end. Love is a beautiful feeling and you just invested in the wrong place. No one deserves to die for that.. Rather no one should be stupid enough! We learn from our mistakes.

But now, all I can do is, pray that you find peace. That you are finally able to shed away all the pain that you wrote about and move on. And I also pray that others see the light before doing what you did! Amen!

RIP honey. Be at Peace

Miracle of the day - 17 July 2013

While going back from office to home, I saw a couple in the metro. The guy looked like he was working a decent job for a couple of years now. A girl, who looked maybe a trainee or someone who couldn’t be working for real long or maybe not working at all, boarded the train along with him.

I tried my best to engage in conversation with the friend I was travelling with and not to stare at them, but I couldn’t help. Guys (to the couple), if you ever read this, and you remember me - there is just one thing I want to say, that I will always pray that the two of you remain like this forever.

As soon as they entered, there was no seat, but the guy found the best spot in the coach available for her, the pole with the map of the metro routes where you can lean, beside the door. However, the girl didn’t want to stand there. The guy said that she would tire herself.

Yet, she insisted. So they stood directly in front of me. The girl also asked me which stop was I getting off, so she knew when she could sit. Well, normally I really hate when people do that but this was the thing that made me notice them even more. So, in a way, it was more of a luck than getting annoyed. Anyways, the guy had this Samsung Galaxy Note 2  and he showed the girl with loads of enthusiasm that he had installed a lot of games on the phone for her. He opened a game and let her play. She took the phone, playfully saying that she will play when she gets the seat. However, she starts playing.

Not knowing the game, she looses, does petty mistakes and always makes a sad face when she does loose. The boy, gently takes the cell and tells her the right way to play. And he would always address her using 'Aap' and call her 'Dear' and 'Darling'… Aww, you know that was really, really sweet!

I just couldn’t help keep noticing them and when finally I got up to leave, the girl actually had to mischievous smile on her face and she was much more eager than I was. The amazing thing was, that there is a peace on the boy's face that finally, his sweetheart can sit and relax.

I havent seen such kind of love in a long time. And all I wanted to do was to tell the boy to never change and keep her like this, for the rest of their lives!

I think, that this was my miracle. To witness something so beautiful. You know, at times like these, I often wonder that when there is so much to be thankful about, so much to love, so much to care for, how does anyone find time to hate or fight?