Proud to be a Woman!

Stop seeing us differently. We are just people like you and we have the right for everything that you do. Stop judging.

And girls... stop feeling sorry for yourselves!!

Whatever you are... whoever you are... however you are... you are God's unique and beautiful creation. Respect that!!

Hair Tip : URGENT : Rebonding? : IMPORTANT

Hey all beautiful girls out there...
and more importantly - all the beautiful-hair girls!

Well - you are here because you were googling about 'rebonding'. Now I know how much you love straight hair... I had huge wavy hair and then I wanted them to be straight.. I bought a usable (local) hair-straightner and used it for a long time. What happened was my wavy hair smoothed a little but I still had pretty curly hair... Until one day I got them rebonded.

Trust me my hair were super awesome and I just loved them. I would flaunt them and play with them... Long story short, I fell head over heels in love with my own hair. But the point to note that I got my first rebonding done in Looks Unisex Salon and trust me guys I do recommend them... they are amazing at their job.

Almost one and a half years, I loved my hair and then they starting to be natural.

Anyways.... I was really stupid and got rebonding done again at the local parlor. She did follow the steps correctly and also use good products but somehow my hair wasnt what I wanted them to be.

And today with only like 3 months I am having a horrible hair fall. It am loosing like 20 - 30 hair daily and it kills me everytime a single hair I see has fallen out. And honestly, my hair doesnt fall strand by strand... they are falling in bunches.

Earlier I didnt have very beautiful straight hair but I had a volume that would make everyone jealous...

So everyone here... I want to suggest you - DONT GET YOUR HAIR REBONDED in some place where it costs less. Always go for national brands and professional salons. And take real good care of your hair. My personal tip will only be this.

And I have researched alot but I have discovered hair wont stop falling until all damaged hair have fallen. You just need to take more care and be very gentle with them.

Good Luck :)

Girl Guide : Introduction

Hey friends...
Now well, let me make it real clear that I am no expert over such issues but I am a girl who had lots of things growing up. And as God has made me, I like to deal with my situations myself. It doesnt mean that parents or anyone older plays no role or should play no role, but I sincerely believe that girls should be given sufficient freedom and ample love.

Having said that... I am currently seeing my younger sisters grow. One of them, I find is totally like me. And the other one - well, she is definitely a challenge to me as well.

So, this new thing I thought I might share online. I am no expert but maybe my experiences and story help other girls like me.

If you are searching for any topic that I will share under this label, you are either a worried parent/ guardian or you are the girl... I believe the latter is more accurate.
First thing you need to know is that there is nothing wrong with the little girl. Don't freak out! You are perfectly normal and sane... Almost just as sane as I am (or maybe loads better). You see there is something that I have learned the hard way and I dont want others to learn it that way - people are not evil/ bad... they are just different. And anyone or anything we dont find according to our plan, we have a habit to term that as evil.

Therefore, I dedicate this post and every other post that will follow under this label as an attempt to put out this word so that I can help as many as possible or atleast let them feel sure that there is nothing wrong with them. We need to just change the perspective :)

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai... Kahin doooor...

I am definitely sure that everyone has heard this melodious track from the SRK starrer superhit movie - Chennai Express. To be honest, as I am writing this review, I am myself downloading the movie and one of the major reasons for why I want to see this movie is just because of this particular song.

No offense, most of the songs in the movie are a pleasure to listen to but there is always some song that stands out the rest. Titli is one of those songs.

Probably I like songs which are very feminine or maybe are depicting the inner most desires and joys of the female protagonists… like Titli itself, Manmarziyaan from Lootera, Eli Re Eli from Yaadein, Aadha Ishq from Band Baaja Baraat, and lots more.. But then again, these songs can be heard at anytime. You can hear them when you are happy, or when you are sad, when you feel romantic, when you are having a little heart-ache… and the beauty of these songs is that they never fail to make you better no matter how high you are already feeling.

Tamil Poetry

Kondal vannanaik kovalanay venney

Unda vayan en, Ullam kavarndhanai (x2)

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Kanda kangal marronrinaik kanave

Translation:

I have seen the One whose color is like dark rainclouds

He is the one with the mouth that swallowed the butter of cowherds,

He is the Lord of the devas, He is Lord Ranganatha,

He is my nectar, my life!

My eyes have seen my Lord and will not see anything else!

This concept of adding lyrics from another language, has proven really nice. Not knowing the other language but at times the feelings in the voices are enough to communicate with the other person. And I believe that this is the beauty of the songs with bits from other languages. Like, some english piece adds a flavor of rap or rock to the song… Similarly, these days, the south Indian (including Bengali) touch to the song has added an additional bit of romance to the song.

Also, there is no language for love… Love in itself is free from such constraints. It is something that is felt… and if you really love someone it doesn’t really matter if you don’t know each other's language. If feelings are true, you don’t have to speak a single word to explain anything. Things from the heart can be directly heard by another heart.

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor...

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor...

Chal ke khushboo se juda juda juda hai

Kahin doooor...

Haadse ye kaise

Unsune se jaise choome adheron ko

Koi Nooor...

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor…

Titli is a song about a girl's feelings as and when she falls in love. There are irregularities that she experiences with her ownself. There is a new person in her that she faces and there is a wildness to herself. She laughs and cries for no good reason… she ventures into the unknown without even thinking about the consequences… She just feels pleased with her ownself… for no good reason and there is a certain goodness in the world, in everything that is around her… a goodness that she notices for the first time, a goodness that pleases her and the more pleased she feels, the more good things around her gets… and suddenly the girl is amidst this endless cycle making her feeling high and higher.

Sirf keh jaaun ya

Aaasmaan pe likh doo

Teri taarifon mein

Chashme Baddoor…

Because this song started off as a girl oriented song, so it is quite obvious that these lines by the guy are a fragment of her imagination.. And so is the case in the movie as well. However, we shall not really be bothered by the movie, that let be another story for another blog entry… as of now… When you start liking someone, there is no bigger reward than being liked back by the person you so dearly adore.

You tend to do anything for that person and you just wish that he also reciprocates the same feelings.

Trust me, when a girl first experiences love, there is nothing greater than being loved! Its like there is nothing more to the world than the guy of her dreams. Ofcourse, it differs from girl to girl, but in the end, all girls love being cared for. So if you care for a girl truly, make sure you tell her as often as you can.

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor...

Chal ke khushboo se juda juda juda hai

Kahin doooor...

Tamil:

Kondal vannanaik kovalanay venney

Unda vayan en

Ullam kavarndhanai

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Kanda kangal marronrinaik kanave

There can be promises made just to keep her smiling… ofcourse, we all know there are certain things a man (as in a human) cant really guarantee - the future. But telling a girl that you see her whenever you think of your future, is the best way to tell her that you love her.

Most girls might not be looking for a serious relationship at first but as time progresses, they get so much involved into the relationship, that after a point of time, no gift or no form of love, greater than commitment will be the best asset for her.

There is a famous saying sort-of, a girl is very much serious when she gets into commitment but eventually loosens up, however a guy is very casual at first but if he gets serious about the girl, there can be no greater commitment than what he would display.

Most or all of us would have heard us, just we all comprehend it in our own words.

What I feel is that, initially girls put all the restrictions and conditions, but a guy who sails out all of those, is definitely the one with whom she could spend the rest of her life. All the initial restrictions were just a measure to make sure he's the one. Once she has her trust, she knows that he wont leave her for anything in the world… therefore, after she trusts him, it doesn’t matter even if he's flirting. Take it from me guys, this is the time when the girl knows you for your true self.. For your heart.. She would ofcourse not like if you flirt but she would know you belong with her forever.

Whereas guys never get serious at first… after spending a lot of time with someone when they can say that yes this is one person they cant live without, that's love!

Bhoori bhoori aankhein teri

Kankhiyon se tez teer kitne chhode

Dhaani dhaani baatein teri

Udte-phirte panchhiyon ke rukh bhi mode

That's just a thing of saying - love at first sight. I don’t really believe there is any such thing. You can definitely like a person or admire them but never love them. Loving a person includes loving them for their faults as well.

When a guy spends enough time with a girl, he comes to know of all her habits… all her small requirements… all her needs and wishes… and if just grows in love with each and everyone of them, that is when there is love!

Then there is no one beautiful than his girl… and he would give the world away for his princess…

Adhoori thi zara si

Main poori ho rahi hoon

Teri saadagi mein hoke choor

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai, kahin door

Chal ke khushboo se juda juda juda hai

Kahin door…

This is the love that completes a girl… all her life she had never realized that she was missing something,
but only after the guy truly loves her, she realizes how incomplete she had been.

And God forbid, but for any reason the two separate, it leaves a void in the girl's heart…

Anyways, this song is about love, so we better not discuss any tears.

Raatein gin ke

Neendein bun ke

Cheez kya hai khwaabdaari hum ne jaani

Tere sur ka saaz ban ke

Hoti kya hai raagdaari hum ne jaani

For a girl, love is when she completely trusts the guy with all her soul… she is ready for any level of commitment with the guy and already starts weaving dreams.

Well actually, I cant think of a single girl who wouldn’t have had some dreams and aspirations to what her dream guy would be like. All girls have thought about her guy and their grand wedding before even meeting the guy. Its just that after she meets her guy, a face starts to appear and colors begin to fill up her dreams.

All the things that were dreams for all these years, start to take shape of reality!

Jo dil ko bhaa rahi hai

Woh teri shayari

Ya koi shayarana hai fitoor..

Even the small things about the guy that werent part of your initial planning, now seem to fit in perfectly.
It was like this quality is definitely a thing you wanted but you hadnt thought of it till you met the guy and then you think how hard it would be to live without it, to live without him...

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai

Kahin doooor...

Chal ke khushboo se juda juda juda hai

Kahin doooor...

Haadse ye kaise, unsune se jaise

Choome adheron ko, koi Noor..

Bann ke titli dil uda uda uda hai, kahin door..

I know that the elder generation don’t really see this love and romance thing as anything good… but times change. Love can never have any ugly or bad form. It will always be the most sacred thing known to mankind.

Today's relationships allow a girl and a guy to select a life partner whom they really like. Its always better to know someone and then marry them than vice-versa. I don’t say that arranged marriages are bad, its just that when you are in love with a person, you already tend to know all about them and adjust accordingly. You don’t need to worry about going into an unknown environment.

Sirf keh jaaun ya

Aaasmaan pe likh doo

Teri taarifon mein

Chashme Baddoor...

Tamil:

Kondal vannanaik kovalanay venney

Unda vayan en, Ullam kavarndhanai (x2)

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Andar kon ani arangkan en amudhinaik

Kanda kangal marronrinaik kanave

I havent deciphered the song or done anything in context to the movie… I just wrote what I really felt whenever I heard the song… and how most of the girls would feel. It so happens that the movie has the song in exactly the same manner, but that is, I believe, a streak of good luck.

Anyways, if you have read this, I hope next time you meet your life partner, you will be able to comprehend her a little better… or you meet someone special, you will know how she might be feeling.

Natural Hair Care - II

Long and healthy hairs can grace any occasion. To keep your hair dandruff, tangles and dullness free always keep them neat and clean. Long hair needs extra care and nourishment. Oiling in long hair is a must.

Growth of hair can arrest by vitamin deficiency. Girls have a tendency to get lured by the commercials and opt for products which merely promise to enhance the growth of hair. Lack of proper nutrition can cause several health problems.

Unhealthy hairs are the sign of some internal health problems. Healthy long hairs reflect inner beauty. Vitamins and minerals stimulate the hair follicle and thus results in healthy hair growth.

Some essential vitamins which boost healthy growth of hair are niacin or Vitamin B3, B, B5, A, C and E. Scalp capillary functions are stimulated by variations of vitamin B. These vitamins improve the blood circulation. Zinc also helps in healthier hair growth.

Our hairs are nothing but dead proteins that is Keratin, so consumption of  protein rich diet always enhances hair growth for example fish, meat, corn, peas, and soya bean and milk products provides enough protein to improve hair growth. Carbohydrate should form 80% of a diet to complete a diet.

Balanced diet can give one a healthy mane. Use of too much of artificial product is strictly prohibited.

• One of the most common hair growth home remedies is lemon juice. Lemon juice is whisked with egg or curd and mustard oil. Apply this mixture on head and leave it for about half an hour and then wash well with cold water.






• Use coconut milk to massage your hair. Leave it for 20 minutes and then rinse your hair. Use your finger
balls to massage your hairs. This is one of the most effective natural home remedies for hair growth.

• Coconut oil, castor oil and olive oil used in combination to stimulate the hair follicles. Massage your hair properly with this combination and see healthy growth of your hair in front of your hair.

• Infuse rosemary leaves in water so that it can it leave its extract in water. This solution can be used for hair wash. It decreases hair fall as it eliminates dandruff, the main cause of hair fall. Rosemary also opens up the blocked pores of scalp.

• You can rinse your hair with apple vinegar to provide an extra tint of shine to your hair.

• Massage your scalp with Aloe vera for 15 minutes to get beautiful long hair. Moreover, it is considered as one of the most popular natural cures for hair problems.

• Whisk some edible oil and honey and apply this mixture on your hair and keep it for 30 minutes and then wash off your hair with cold water. This is a traditional and effective home remedy for long hair.

• Mixture of lime juice and amla powder is a natural cleanser for healthy growth of long hair. One tablespoon of lemon juice is mixed with one tablespoon of amla powder.

•  Home treatment consisting of application of grounded amaranth leaves paste is a very effective for long growth of hair. Keep this therapeutic paste for 15 to 20 minutes. After that wash your hair with cold water.

• Whisk one tablespoon of black pepper powder and one teaspoon of lemon seed powder. Application of this mixture for 10-15 minutes on head revitalizes hair and very beneficial to get bouncy and shiny hair.

• Drinking sufficient amount of water always keep your hair healthy. It works as one of the most valuable natural home remedies for Hair Growth.

• Avoid chemical based bleach, hair curler, hair dryers, hair gels (chemical based), chemical hair colors and conditioner (available in market) as they can damage your hair very easily because of the ammonia content.

• Regularly trim your hairs to prevent split ends.

 Some dos and don’ts for healthy hair growth
• Excessive exposure to sun should be avoided
• Exposure to chlorine and salt should be avoided
• Too hot water should be avoided to wash your hair
• Spend good amount of time to brush your hairs
• Frequently oil and clean your hair.






Use these tricks and flaunt your lustrous locks like Repunzel. Whether braided or hassle free open hair all suits on healthy hairs. Once equipped with this knowledge of home remedy for hair growth there is nothing stopping you getting long and healthy tresses.

Men's guide to WOO her!!

Okay, with two of my good friends MARRIED!! And many of them committed and in a relationship, I guess I have seen quite a variety of couple, that I can write this article doing some justice to it.

You know, I kinda think I am one of those girls, like Geet in Jab We Met, to whom people share their problems. Most of the times, these arent problems.

It is very easy to make 'Blonde' jokes or joke about girl's I.Q.s, but it is extremely difficult to understand a girl. Atleast that is what more than half of the world (the man population) says :P

Trust me guys, it isnt as difficult as you think. A girl thinks a lot - I mean A LOT when I say it; however, she doesn’t desire much.

Gifts, now you will say are so expensive and a girl just wants more and more of them. But common guys, is there another way that you think to show your love and care? Actually, there is! But how many of you know what they are?

Try one of these (if you can try more than 1 and see the magic work) and you bet the number of gifts you need to buy will reduce -

1. No matter how bad your handwriting is or how your lion may look like a mouse when you draw, just take a sheet of paper, draw the two of you together and write 'Together Forever'. If you don’t want, don’t color it, let it be pencil - sketched or just in blue - ink. But gift her before you say her goodbye for the day (or just give her right before she sleeps, in case you are married)… and see how she blooms.
2. 'Good Morning' works good.. Try saying 'I Love You' or calling her with love names such as 'Shona', 'Jaanu', 'Beautiful', etc, first thing you see her in the morning.

3. If you can, buy her gifts that she can carry around - like small stuff toys, rings or bracelets, handkerchief, etc and not big things.
4. NEVER! Trust me NEVER ever buy a card for your girl. You might want to draw it. It doesn’t really matter if it is the funniest card you have ever seen, it will be a treasure for her.

5. Every time you talk to her on the phone, ask her to smile, for she looks beautiful doing so!

6. Hold her hand at random moments. Don’t hold it always and never hold it too tight. But sometimes when you are passing in a crowd or just strolling, just hold her hand to let her know you are there.

7. If she is angry or upset, try listening to her. A girl doesn’t share with everybody. It is only a few privileged people who hold the key to her tears. Only those people can share her tears and only those can make her cry. Be the first kind.

8. Make her a part of your life. I mean, fine, she may not even understand a small part of what you do in your office or at your studies, but if you just try to tell her, she would love to listen.
9. Very IMPORTANT!! If she did something for you, try to see the feelings behind it. Don’t complain. And well, do the same. If you did something and she took it the wrong way, again be patient and let her calm down. Then you can talk some sense into her. Shouting will never cease.
10. Best of all - dedicate a day to her. If there is one day that you want to make special and memorable for her, let her choose what to do. Or plan it out with things she loves. Take her to her favorite restaurant, or visit her favorite shop. Let her make the choices for the day, even the small ones!!

Let's jus say, I know guys can get real serious if they are really in the relationship and of course you love her damn A LOT! But common what is shown is what sells! Even when there is love, you need to express it. Of course gifts and dinners are one way of expressing it, but they aren't the only ways. And there is a limit to the gifts. You get married and you just buy gifts for others or maybe on real special occasions. But if you keep these gestures, you will definitely see her smile more often!

Some not-so-expensive gifts that you can give her -

Elegant Mangalsutra Pendant

 Faux Pearl Studded Bangles

Entire Set - 1

Necklace and Earrings - 1

 Entire Set - 2

Kada Bangles

Necklace and Earring - 2

Earrings

Necklace and Earrings - 3

Necklace and Earrings - 4