Sunday, February 14, 2010

Someone you maynot know......

SHE... (oh not the Standard Hydrogen Electron) but SHE... she is sweet, simple, caring, loving, cultured, innovative, competetive, hard-working, loyal, funny, attractive, beautiful, charming, religious, rational, adorable, intelligent, sympathetic, a good listener, a good orater, adventurous, graceful, writer, singer, dancer..... she is everything... yet sometimes nothing!

People say books are your best friends.. some say dogs are... but these people never tell what a best friend is - If you ask me - A Best Friend is a person who will always listen... who is never need to be told what is wrong with you.. who supports you through thick and thin... who likes you for what you are... who knows all your faults but will count a thousand good traits when they tell it to the world... and above all.. a friend is one - who does all or some of this and you appreciate his / her act... a best friend is one.. for whom you are willing to do all these things... with no demands.. no complaints!

Since when a child is born... a girl (... a She ...) is always there with him / her ... as the best friend... sometimes we are just to blinded to see that..

With the birth of a child.. a mother is born too... when other relatives say we dont know how to take care of the child, the mother too is somewhat unsure (in case of 1st baby)... but the moment she holds her child in her arms... she needs no training... she is the 'Perfect Mother'! She knows when the child is hungry... she knows what is in his / her mind... she knows your strength and struggles to vanish all your weaknesses...

When you grow up... she is your sister.. the one to trouble you the most.. but whose tears are the thing that you cant take... who cant see you hurt.. who will play with you... who will be your first competent and will never let you loose! Her smile gives you hope... you love to fight with her but you cant imagine not having her... and trust me those who dont have sisters, are the ones to know what they are really missing! Sister is the best way of knowing your own self from someone else's point of view... someone who will eat up your brains with endless talks but listen to you always... and no wonder elder brothers and sisters are so protective about their younger sisters!

Some more time ahead in life.. we all meet girls as a friend... just a friend as for now... she's bubbly, chirpy, crazy, wild... and totally unlike you... but you enjoy her company... you talk as though you have known each other forever... talks that are so innocent!

Then comes a division... guys see girls as girl friends... and girls and some guys might find their best friend in a gal!

Girl Friend is a girl who knows you best after your mom... she knows when you are upset or angry or happy or irritated.. all in all she knows you.. the best thing about her is she knows how to connect to you... mind you.. there are no tutions teaching all this, yet your girl friend knows when you need her the most... when you want her to just be there silently... she is demanding... possessive and sometimes jealous... and that is really what draws two people close in a relationship.. because you know she cares that's why she is like that... and you know it or not... but if you both are in some serious love.. you are the same too... she likes you for what you are.. she even likes your flaws.. and though there are times she will ask you to change.. but trust me - a girl very sheldom means that!

Being a best friend... I super strongly oppose that a guy and a girl cant be best friends... indeed I think they can be the best of the besties... someone who is totally different from you and still there for u... isnt this what best friends are? They listen to you.. support you.. be with you... okie do I sound that 'you' are very helpless and cowardly person?? If so.. then sorry... I am not a very good writer then :P
Its just that you are also there for her!!

Then you meet her as your wife.. (for boys only!) someone who is there for you at all stages of life.. who will hold your hand no matter what happens... she loves you unconditionally.. she fights with you... but makes you smile too... according to me.. when we say that marriages are made in heaven.. we actually mean finding the angel of your life.. who is there for you in every way possible.. isnt that just great...

A few more roles a SHE is to play - Grandmother, Aunt, Daughter, ....

Imagine not having those stories which only your granny knew.. and the hand knitted sweaters she gave you.. all the bed time songs she sang for you and the taste in her hand... I know no one can cook like my mother.. but the taste in my granny's hand is even unique! You just love to sit by your grandma and she would tell you all takes about her childhood.. now who can imagine to miss all this?

Your Daughter... to a father.. the daughter is the world! her smile makes the world seem so sweet! Her laughter makes everything right.. her tears are hot than stream and they strike right at the heart and her words are just so innocent.. a father will do anything to protect her daughter.. and the day when a father has to stop his emotions and let his daughter open her wings and fly into the world all by herself... I think that day is the most difficult day for a father... and to a mother.. the daughter is a reflection... mother sees herself in her daughter.. she wants her daughter to be even better and much more perfect.. someone the world looks upto!!

See... a SHE can matter so much.. a single SHE can play so many roles to different people and live upto all of them... and still the number of girls in the world is far behind the number of males...
Forbidden by law but we still have female foeticide...
There is still dowry.. a wedding is still sale - purchase for some...
We have child marriages and young widows...
Women are still considered incompetent at places
Women are considered evil... a witch is bad .. a wizard is the boy who lived and earned millions by 7 books...

I really dont know what to say but I have a question... Does me being a girl really matter this much?

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